[firedude]

Well we brought my wife's uncle down from Oregon. He's now living with us, in our newly renovated bedroom/bath. He's in end stage kidney failure, CHF, a fib, vasculitis.... u get the picture... train wreck as we call them....dialysis 3 times a week, multiple Dr appointments at the VA hospital in San Antonio. Holy cow, it's a full time job!!! People are asking how retirement has been .... well, retirement isn't happening yet..... this will pass one way or the other, don't know how long he's gonna live.... we're just trying to maintain and be strong and patient...... thanks for listening.... had to dump somewhere....

 

[kneedrachen]

Thats a tough gig and I do not envy you. On the flip side, no one can accuse you of being bored with nothing to do. . . .

 

[i12ride]

very commendable taking on what y'all are. Good luck and strength be with you and your wife..........

 

[ksr5]

Just went trough the same thing with my wife, lost her in September to cancer. Taking care of someone is a full time job and is not easy. Now I have to figure out what the new normal is.

 

[i12ride]

Sorry for your loss.......seems these days any "new normal" = abnormal, for the most part.

 

[kneedrachen]

@ksr5 , my deepest sympathies

 

[middleman21009]

Well we brought my wife's uncle down from Oregon. He's now living with us, in our newly renovated bedroom/bath. He's in end stage kidney failure, CHF, a fib, vasculitis.... u get the picture... train wreck as we call them....dialysis 3 times a week, multiple Dr appointments at the VA hospital in San Antonio. Holy cow, it's a full time job!!! People are asking how retirement has been .... well, retirement isn't happening yet..... this will pass one way or the other, don't know how long he's gonna live.... we're just trying to maintain and be strong and patient...... thanks for listening.... had to dump somewhere....

All good and GOD bless you sir. First for your service and the for helping out. You are a special type of person.

 

[middleman21009]

Just went trough the same thing with my wife, lost her in September to cancer. Taking care of someone is a full time job and is not easy. Now I have to figure out what the new normal is.

Sorry to hear sir.

 

[Dos_Ruedas]

Stay strong. Prayers for you and your family.



Someone mentioned "new normal."

A favorite quote,

"There's no normal life, just life....."

 

[John_V]

I think at some point many of us have been through what you are going through or will be in the near future. It's not easy and it's not something that look forward to doing but we do what we have to do for family.

Before my father in law passed away, my wife spent almost a year in Illinois taking care of him. She would alternate every two months with one of her sisters so each would get a break and spend some time with their families. There wasn't a nursing home, more of a holding tank for death, where he lived and he refused to come to Florida. I took a few trips up there during that period, which was not one of the best or easiest times my wife and I had been through.

Keep positive and take it one day at a time, which is about all you can do.

 

[firedude]

Thanks for all the kind words. It's been quite a roller coaster ride. Right now I'm sitting in a waiting room waiting for my wife to come out of foot surgery. Yep, life keeps happening!!!....

 

[Johnie Broughton]

May your wife recover soon. Everyday is an adventure, one needs to go through them.

 

[longjohn]

Just went trough the same thing with my wife, lost her in September to cancer. Taking care of someone is a full time job and is not easy. Now I have to figure out what the new normal is.

So how are you getting along now? Are you staying single? Dating? Remarried? You probably won’t answer this because I don’t think you are on the forum anymore. Lost my wife to cancer last year. It would be nice to talk to you.