That's how I was raised and taught, and it continued through my apprenticeship. It reminds me, though, of an incident when I was about ten years old. My grandfather remarried after his first wife died, and this was before I was born. His new wife's name was Lillian, but my parents never could get to call her 'Mom', while they both referred to him as 'Dad.' So they became 'Lil and Dad.' Of course, I had to call them 'nanny and granddad.' So on this occasion in my tenth year, I sat back in a chair and asked my mother: "So when's Lil and Dad coming up, again?" My mother shrieked and told me to wait until my father gets home. At the same time my brothers and sisters burst out laughing. Needless to say I never called them that, again.... He didn't realize I was his preceptor and wanted to know what to call me. I said "Well you can start by addressing each of us as 'sir' starting now." That brought him down a few notches.
I always teach my students that geriatric patients are not to be "hon", "sweetie", "dear." It is always Miss/Ms./Mr. and if they deviate from that, it is noted on their evaluation form. If someone makes it 40+ years on this earth, you owe them that formal respect.
I've been called worse!Grocery store today - clerk called me "Dearie" and "Sweetheart." I know this does not bother many of you, but it drives me nuts, and happens more often (and is more grating) as one gets older.
I grinned and bore it, but I think I will have a business card printed that says -
"It is very condescending to call someone my age Dearie, Sweetheart, honey or similar endearances. Please call me Dr. Fox or Denver. Thank you."
and hand it out when this happens. Or, perhaps, I will just yell at them.
End of rant!
I actually did this in a grocery store - got a "Sweetie" and told her that I thought we were keeping our affair a secret. She did a sort of double-take and smiled and got my point.I have shortened it even more - Loudly
Please don't call me sweetheart (dearie, honey and all the rest) in public - I thought we were keeping our affair a secret."